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You un-love like others un-dress-

arriving back home from this week’s gala,

clashes of crashes in the sequined waves

falling from your shoulders, hairpins

dropping like a summer storm, high heels

soaring in arches, your heels grounding flat,

your audible return to the beginning

of choosing what to wear next.

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May 16, 2022Liked by Kaitlin Curtice

Un-love

feels like love with

conditions

a love that says

you are not worthy

of the love given

a love that teaches

love is an outside

force that saves

Un-love

separates us from love

the core essence of our

being that connects

us with the Divine and

all Beings

that says you are me

and I am you

Un-love

says you need love

to become whole

to fix your brokenness

Love

says you are love

you are whole

you are not broken

Un-love calls you

outside of yourself

Love calls you

to return to Self

Un-love

is defined, constrained with

unchanging parameters

Love

is always expanding

always including

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May 16, 2022Liked by Kaitlin Curtice

There once was a people

Who worshiped a god

Who kept score about

How well they were doing or not doing.

They loved this god because

They liked keeping score, getting

More points than other people.

But some of these people grew anxious.

They said, “Some days it feels like we have more bad points than good points,

And how do we know how many

Points are enough points?”

We must un-love this god

Loving this god is making us sick.

Once there was a people who worshiped a god who loved

Them more than other people,

more than other people

who were different.

They liked worshiping this god, because

It made them feel better about themselves, and good about dominating others and taking their stuff.

But some of these people grew strangely lonely. They started to sense they were missing something important, the truth about the humanity of the other and of themselves.

And so they had to un-love this god.

Because this god was making them sick.

Once there were all kinds of people who made up all kinds

Of gods that made them sick.

There still are.

But there always has been and always will be the great mystery of

A pointless God who who loves us all; the divine who blesses our un-loving of all that is not true, all that is not love; the God of mercy, compassion and delight who gifts us with a life that brings wellness to us and all.

May we love this God and live.

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May 16, 2022Liked by Kaitlin Curtice

Un-love paints a picture in my mind of a forgotten child sitting alone waiting for a kind word of encouragement. Love bursts forth for that child as birds, bugs, flowers, trees, four-legged animals, amphibians and reptiles join the scene.

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Every. Single. Atom

In trees, fingernails, and clouds

Has existed for all time.

-

Every. Single. Atom

Breathed,

Sighed,

Sung.

-

Every. Single. Being.

Breathing, sighing, singing,

the same air

Breathed

Sighed

Sung by prophets,

and by God.

-

What if Love,

like atoms,

(Neither created nor destroyed

after the first Big Bang of Yes)

Is, like atoms,

Breathed

Sighed

Sung?

-

How then could we ever feel

Un-Loved?

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un-love

verb

1. a revocation of deep affection, interest, attachment, pleasure, time, energy, and/or faith from/in someone.

"every day that I un-love my abuser, I'm a little more free"

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May 16, 2022·edited May 16, 2022

Un-love

reminds me

of

apathetic disinterest

to no care

at all

for someone's

mere existence

or life.

my heart

goes towards the

Divine pathos

I feel weeping

Does God feel

un-love-ed

possibly?

we remember God

in our wants.

and needs

but do we

love God

with everything

or

do we un-love God?

certainly

we share an

un-love for neighbors

when we exclude them

because they're different

or we only offer

thoughts and prayers

when they're

gunned down

homeless and hungry

poor, in general, actually

imprisoned

isolated and alone

I feel God weeping

suffering with

the un-love-ed.

to be in

relationship

with God

is to be

in relationship

with the

un-love(ed)

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Once clay has been fired, it can never again be just clay.

There is no un-fire.

Once I have loved, my state of matter has forever changed.

Is there un-love?

I am not water, ice, vapor.

I am clay, bisque, glaze fire.

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Underneath needless lies…

I search to rediscover self love.

In a time of not fully loving my body…

Have I fallen out of love?

Have I discovered unlove?

An emptiness of sympathy

A wondering of what could be

A grief of what once was

A longing to get back

to that time

to that place

to that body in which

I was loved.

Not by others,

But

By

Me.

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I cannot quite

wrap my mind around

un-love.

But it might be the way

someone new buys your home

and rips up the garden

you spent years cultivating.

It might be the way

they called us wrong,

controversial, drifting, divisive,

all the while tearing up our roots

to throw us out on the lawn.

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(UN-)

A dramatic combo of innocent looking letters,

always grabbing at other unsuspecting words,

forcing them to repeal.

Glory or havoc, it doesn't seem to care,

it just knows it cannot stand alone.

.selfish pig.

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The more I consider the word “unlove”

It makes no sense

I’ve come to realize, after much reflection, combined with space and time,

That love, true love, never goes away.

It unravels, fades, hurts...

You may say “I don’t love him anymore!”

Making that declaration makes it easier

To walk away, but,

If it was truly love, in some form,

Love always remains.

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I love this idea of a new word.

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Un-Love

When I joined the church

I felt Love

When I left the church

I felt Un-Love

I want to feel loved again

By those in that building

But in order to Love myself

I must remain

Un-Loved by them

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