Good morning friends,
Once again I am so overcome with gratitude for how you’re showing up to this space. Whether you’re sharing your poetry here or not, whether you’re reading my poetry or not, I can feel the depth and care of this community, and I am so grateful.
We’re having deep discussions in the writing world about whether social media is necessary for us—that’s not a discussion I’m getting deeply into here today, but I want to point to it because so many of us are trying to build a community, a community like this one. Just yesterday I received two different emails from women thanking me for my writing, for how it’s changing and shaping their lives, and I am so humbled and grateful to be any small part in the healing journey of another human.
That’s why I am here.
That’s why I write poetry.
I think that’s why you’re here, too, so thank you.
Today’s word is dreamworld, and my poem is a long one, so please lean in and bear with me! Ask what the dreamworld speaks to you, how it gives you something in this chaotic world we inhabit.
I met myself once, in the dreamworld, but I didn’t know it until a few days later. In the dream, I came across a small child in a field, there inside a fenced-in area with a playful lion. The lion kept trying to jump the fence, and I, adult that I am, wanted to intervene, to help the child manage an unmanageable Situation. But the child smiled, kept the lion in line with tender words and her own ferocious smile, and at one point, when the child wasn’t looking, the lion bounded from their cage, and still, once the child noticed, they smiled, knowing the lion would return when they were ready. I asked myself what the dreamworld wanted to say to me there, what I maybe wanted to say to myself, and there was nothing at first except my own worries at the sight of this child and lion in total kinship. But there, days later while practicing my own form of embodiment, it came to me, stunningly clear: I am the lion. I am the woman. I am the child. The dreamworld is there for us, a reminder that beyond the veil of chaos we know there is something deep tethering us to the unknowable, eternal realities that exist within us. Isn’t that a glorious thing in itself, that we are so deeply connected to The Sacred even in our time of rest? Isn’t it glorious that somehow I can be a lion, a child, and a worrisome woman all in the same tight cage of my own being? Isn’t it glorious that somehow we are never left alone and also that we are always alone with ourselves to plunge the depths and find out what waits there? May we build altars to the dreamworlds that hold and tether us, altars buried under sheets and blankets and sleep masks, altars beneath the dark of our eyelids where we wait to discover who we’ve been waiting to become.
There you are
Close enough to be who I thought you were
Who I wanted you to be
Who you masked yourself as:
The life of the party;
The compassionate carer;
The twin to my flame.
I saw you in this place before you were
And shaped you into being
And so you came to inhabit the daily rituals of my life:
To bring new life;
To walk beside;
To nurture spirit.
But this world was not meant for you.
It’s meant for me alone:
Where new life greets me daily with the dawn;
Where I rise after falling to walk the grassy path;
Where I tend to my spirit with a poem a day.
In those last still moments of my dreamworld night
There you are
And I ask you why.
This place is not for you anymore.
I’ve dreamed you out of being.
And you may go.
I cross the threshold from sleeping to waking
And know that now it’s safe.
Dream Visitors
My grandmothers occasionally visit me
Years after they’ve left this world
As I lay in bed unconsciously sorting out my wild mind
We’re always somewhere familiar–a sense of love palpable
One will hug me with all her strength
And tell me, “you’re doing alright, kid.”
My soul mate–my best friend
My heart is always full of love and tears when I awake
My other Grandma visits to show me how misunderstood she’d been
Her whole life–no one saw her anxiety, no one helped her accept herself
I promise I see her–I promise I will learn from her pain
I promise her I hold no hard feelings for the things she did when scared
They both remind me of my power
The power they rarely got to fully show the world
They took on a world that had no interest in seeing them succeed
Both learned to hold their boundless strength close and quiet
Each of them taking their causes with ruthless diligence
Week after week, they sought the good of others
Both thoroughly uninterested in “causing a fuss”
But refusing to not fuss over others when needed
I always awake from these visits with new insights about me
I see a patchwork of their lives as I look in the mirror
Their love embroidered in the growing number of crow's feet around my eyes
Their wisdom stitched into the laugh lines around my mouth
I tell them to rest well
I tell them I’ll do them proud
In all my imperfections–in all my weaknesses
I’ll embody their strengths as best I can