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Healing

Is not about

eradicating

the injury.

It's about learning

to live

with the scars.

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Yes! Wounded healers.

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Yes and amen.

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Very well said, j.h.

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Yesterday my son glanced at my heel

and said “look! It’s all better now!”

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Only then did I remember the cut

that bled into my shoe

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Only then did I notice that I was

no longer treating it every day

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That’s how healing is

Sometimes others see it

before you do

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This is so profound! Lovely

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This is so powerful, love. Oof.

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This is brilliant, Grace--"sometimes others see it before you do." I love that insight!

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I brushed my hair today.

I dressed in clothes

that didn’t stretch.

I washed my face—

made myself up.

I fed myself,

but with more than cereal

harriedly poured from a box

into a bowl of milk

where it might sit,

soggy and forgotten.

No—

I stood at the stove,

I cooked eggs.

I fed myself.

But it was more than eggs.

It was nourishment.

It was realizing that—

empty as I was—

I could be filled full.

It was believing that

I deserve to be fed.

And I put on shoes

The ones I had to lace up

and I ran.

But I was no longer

running away

or running from.

I was running for.

I was running for me,

rebuilding kinship

with my body

believing this body matters—

that my matter

had meaning.

And my feet fell.

I felt strength.

Not strength against.

Strength with.

With the earth,

with myself.

Strength restored.

Renewed, returned, repaired.

And I laughed.

With no dark humor,

not acknowledging

the morbid despondency of

the life I was living.

I laughed with delight,

with a teary-eyed joy

with wonder

that changed me.

Estranged to embraced.

Healing,

I took care of myself today

because I finally believed

I was worthy of care.

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so powerful! thank you for sharing!

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Thank you!

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Beautiful!

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"It was realizing that empty as I was, I could be full." Yes, friend.

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This is a remarkable and beautiful poem, Jenai! What a testimony to healing.

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Plinking Paw Prints

I have often felt

the water stirred,

and by it

the words swirl up,

not so much

in tsunami waves,

as in the plinking

of a small pebble tossed

by a young child

into what appeared

to be a calm pond;

stirred by spirits

I could neither identify

as sacred nor profane.

Only after the words

of the inky sea

have splashed on the page

and mostly dried

am I sometimes able

to see that what began

as egotistical hubris

has been transformed,

not by my own doing,

but by the tracks

of animals

across the wet page —

sometimes puppies,

other times kittens,

and maybe even

wild animals climbing in

through the cracks

while I sleep —

who transfigure

the whole ocean

of my soul,

and the paper boat

floating in it,

into an unmasking

of selfishness;

an unveiling that occurs

in a way that is

much less punitive

or accusatory,

and much more

healing and freeing. 

I am learning

that I am not only

much more connected

to the cosmos

than I once imagined,

but also beholden

to the creatures

of the night;

for, without

their paw prints,

I might still

be held captive

by the hubris

of my mind.

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Love

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Very nice Todd. What a heartfelt tribute to the healing powers of our animal cousins.

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Healing is not

bypassing, it is accepting what is present.

Healing is not

linear, but a circular, back and forth, unfolding process.

Healing is not

one size fits all, we all have unique constitutions.

Healing is not

fixing, it is honoring what is broken as life’s fragility.

Healing is not

symptom free, but looking deeper into the roots.

Healing is not

compartmentalizing, for we are whole connected beings.

Healing is not

ever finished, because we are always growing and evolving.

Healing is a beautiful alchemy.

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I love that we both mentioned alchemy in our poems today! And I love the framing of yours, peeling away what healing isn't to the heart of what it is.

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This really says so much. I love the line spacing you’ve used in repetition - so effective.

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This is the one. So perfect. One of the hardest things for me to accept is that healing is not linear. I held on to umprocessed grief for about 50 years and now I’m learning that grief & joy flow from the same river.

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This is wisdom at its best, Julie. It would make a splendid poster or card! True reminders of the essence of healing grace.

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Beautiful, Kaitlin. I especially loved the ending - "I'm ready now." I used it as a seed for my poem.

There is an alchemy

that happens when

we are finally ready

to sit with a feeling,

.

to look pain the eye

and begin dealing

with the cause, and

what is left behind,

.

to remind ourselves

to treat it kindly. And

beneath it -- there --

we find the healing.

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‘to look pain the eye

and begin dealing

with the cause, and

what is left behind,’

Gorgeous words x

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I love this A. I love the first stanza and the insight it reveals:

"There is an alchemy

that happens when

we are finally ready

to sit with a feeling,"

I am inspired and amazed how in these twelve piercing lines, you manage to speak in the wisdom of the ages. Thank you!

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I wish healing was linear

A smooth slope I could climb

Towards a clear destination.

But it winds and doubles back

Switchback upon switchback through the tangled pines

And the summit I think I'm heading toward

Turns out to be false.

But one day I find a clear pass in the rock

And I find myself further along than I expected

The false summit a shoulder of mountain far behind me

And I think, Maybe I am making progress after all.

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How true this is!

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I love this Lisa--what a wonderful way to depict the spiral and non linear nature of healing, in crossing the winding paths that take us up, down and across the peaks and valleys in our lives.

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It really is easy to compare it to hiking in the mountains-- you just have to follow the path and see where it takes you!

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Exactly the words I needed to read right now Kaitlin. Thank you 💜

I had thoughts yesterday, but u didn't get to write. So I wrote this this morning on Fear - but I think it's on Healing too ...

A story

Took me away

This morning

Helped me

Feel okay

This morning

The fear

Was growing

Overflowing

Getting

In the way

This morning

I'm grateful

To this story

To words

And heart

And feeling

The fear's

Not gone

But has

Less brawn

And I'm

No longer

Reeling

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Ooh, the rhythm of this is wonderful.

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Ah thank you A ☺️💜

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This is so wonderful, Sarah. I love that you connected fear to healing, and speak so eloquently to that slow and bumpy process of release, letting go, facing and healing.

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I hugged you with question marks

as you walked into rehab

Ten years ago.

I hug you with tears of joy

As you walk down the aisle

today on your wedding day,

my brother.

Seeing healing is better.

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"I hugged you with question marks" This is so beautiful, Chuck.

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Great poem, Chuck. I love that first line, "I hugged you with questions marks..." and the wonderful circle of your brother, healed, coming to hios beloved.

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If only it were as simple

as the passing of time, eh?

All wounds would be

well and truly managed.

.

"It's already been six months."

234 months ago I was told

it was time to 'move on.'

.

Really?

This is how healing works?

Someone else's need

for comfort and 'closure?'

.

Healing is not a timeline,

that is clear.

.

Perhaps it is a container,

made of flesh and bone

holding, bearing,

weeping, sighing,

praying, flailing

until scar tissue

forms over the wound

that is never

-not ever-

restored

.

tick

.

tick

.

tick

.

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Many times I’ve felt that those most interested in us “moving on” and “getting over” grief are the ones who are clueless about their own grief inertia.

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I heard someone say we never move on or get over it. We move forward with it!

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Grief inertia.

Finding the flow.

A communal manual.

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"Perhaps it is a container, made of flesh and bone holding, bearing, weeping, sighing, praying, flailing..." this poem really touched me, bob.

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Beautiful!

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This is a very powerful poem, Bob. Healing is not a linear process, nor is grief and the countless ways we move through transforming events in our lives. You have named that so well here.

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H E A L I N G

Hard work

Evolutionary

Abundant

Life changing

Impossibly possible

Not for wimps

Gritty

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Splendid, Gloria!

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In the struggle to hang on to your humanity.

Healing calls.

Surrounded by pretenders that say they value you.

Healing calls.

As binary systems designed for efficiency are revealed.

Healing calls.

Subtle, calculated shifts that finally break you.

Healing calls.

Elevated leaders trudging on, never recognizing their own need for healing. Expecting others to do the same.

Healing calls.

In its brokenness you finally hear it. Your heart, pleading for your attention.

It flutters, and aches for you. Not in an ache that is the end, but in the growing pains of what is to come.

It knows the way of healing. Listen.

Healing calls. Rest.

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'as binary systems designed for efficiency are revealed' - on the money Jon! And all of it, bang on.

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This is very powerful, Jon. I like the refrain of "healing calls" and the enouragement to listen and hear the call of healing.

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healing

there is a poem

inside of me

that is catchy

and uplifting

about healing

being a birth

to death experience

but today

healing is

a few moments

of tears and pain

then lying on the bed

covered with a blanket

for a twenty minute nap

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Very nice, Steven. Healing is big and small, and sometiems the one who needs healing is us.

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Healing isn't

far away

hidden beneath

or deep within

it's accessibility

cannot be touched

untouchable healing

resides in every cell

shapes every step

breathes life into ashes

and buries the old

healing isn't far away

because we are it

we are her

the people who usher

good and God into

every fragile moment

Amen to poetry as hope, dear soul. Thank you.

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The people. Yes. The people. Thank the good God for the people.

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Yes, yes, yes.

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This is good, Jennifer. Poetry as hope--yes! and "the people who usher good and God into every fragile moment. "Thank you for sharing!

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Thank you for hearing!

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Healing

At the top of my head

Under thick layers of graying hair

Runs a culvert, shallow, invisible to most

Yet deep enough to feel beneath my brush

Or fingers massaging shampoo

A not-so-grand Canyon, a crater-like

C-scar, as it’s known by the surgeon

Whose scalpel rendered it.

It reminds me of the other (more grand) wound beneath,

That his careful hands removed

Many years ago,

And the fragility of our many-layered

Bodies and lives,

Hurts, exposures, invasions (invisible and not),

But also — more importantly—

That often, in time and with care,

Our many-layered wounds can heal.

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This is beautiful, Rachel. Honest, personal and unviersal. Thank you!

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Healing

I wonder if

we are ever

fully healed

Long after

the bleeding

or the tears

stop

Long after

the scar

or the memories

start to fade

Long after

it happened

and the before ended

leaving us to negotiate

life in the after...

The nerves still sometimes

twinge and sting

The hurt still sometimes

twists and turns

And we remember

that the healing

continues

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This is wonderful Jane. A clear reminder that healing is a process, is an evolution, and that even in healing there can still be pain and suffefring. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

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